Top 21emotional signs that he's cheating

Think your mate might be having an affair? Find
out if he is displaying any of the warning signals
described by Raymond B. Green, a private
investigator and former police officer, and
Marcella Bakur, a psychology professor at
Marymount Manhattan College. Here, the 32
emotional signs that he is having an affair:
1. Your mate is more attentive to your needs
than usual. This is due to the guilt feelings
experienced by the cheater in the early stages
of his or her affair. The attention will diminish as
the affair continues.
2. Your mate begins buying you gifts—lots of
gifts. These are "guilt gifts" purchased because
your partner feels guilty about betraying you
and showering you with presents makes him or
her feel better.
3. Your mate's behavior is causing a gut feeling
in you that something isn't right. If this happens,
pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them
means you want to blind yourself to the truth.
You know your mate's habits, routines and
attitudes better than anybody, so be suspicious
when these things change.
4. Your mate frequently picks fights with you.
Doing this gives him reason to get mad and
storm out of the house and thus the opportunity
to meet a lover. A cheater may also do this
because of mixed emotions he is feeling about
betraying you.
5. Your mate constantly talks about your
relationship ending when you fight or argue. She
says things like, "What would you do if our
relationship ended?" or "If anything ever
happened to us, I would always love you like a
friend." In general, she seems very negative
about your relationship. Your mate makes these
statements because she has a lover to fall back
on if your relationship ends. If your partner
repeats these kinds of statements often, be
suspicious.
6. Your mate becomes very moody . He or she
seems very upbeat and excited when leaving
you but acts somber and depressed when
around you. If your mate is in a long-term
affair, he/she will try to keep both relationships
running smoothly. Any problems the cheater
has in one relationship will spill over into the
other relationship as well. This is inevitable.
7. Your mate never talks to you. You live
together but don't interact. He has become cold
and inconsiderate of your feelings.
8. Your mate's taste in music suddenly
changes. For instance, she always listened to
pop music but suddenly starts listening to
country music. Your partner might be listening
to and growing fond of this new type of music
because her lover listens to it.
9. Your mate lacks self-esteem. This doesn't
necessarily mean he will go out and have an
affair, but an insecure individual often looks to
others for guidance. If an insecure person's
needs aren't being met, he might find the
desired feelings of security and positive
feedback in an affair with someone else.
10. Your mate continually criticizes another
person. She is trying to make you think that
type of individual would never be of interest to
her, although there actually exists a secret
attraction.
11. Your mate criticizes things about you that
he or she once found attractive and appealing.
12. Your mate easily becomes offended at the
comments, however harmless, that you make.
13. Your mate stops paying attention to you,
your children and home-life in general.
14. Your mate begins closing doors when you
are around, when before he or she would leave
them open. For instance, the Bathroom-Door
Rule: Couples in long-term relationships often
leave their bathroom doors open while attending
to necessities even if their partners are nearby.
As affairs develop, the cheating mates will close
bathroom doors, distancing themselves
physically and psychologically from their
partners.
15. Your mate stops complimenting you on your
looks.
16. Your mate stops saying, "I love you."
17. You mate acts guilty when you do
something nice for him or her. You are
supposed to be the person who is making life
miserable and the relationship untenable. By
doing something nice, you force the cheater to
think about what he or she is doing.
18. Your mate turns the table and accuses you
of cheating but has no evidence.
19. Your mate would rather spend time with
friends than be with you.
20. Your mate shows no interest in your
relationship's future.
21. Your mate stops being affectionate.