Psychological Reasons Why People Fall In Love

You were walking down the street,
nothing was unusual and then suddenly
she came out from a nearby shop and it
happened that you fell in love with her at first
sight! Huhh!! What happened???
The answer is simple, it's all related to
how your mind works. If you are single or
currently not in a relationship then your
mind will always be on a hunt for your
long awaited partner. Even if you think
that you don't care about relationships
now, still you will fall in love with the
first person who matches your criteria.
But why she? Why not someone else?
Each one of us has got some kind of a
check list stored into his mind which
includes the criteria that a person must
meet in order for you to love him. If a
person doesn't match some of the items in
this list, then he becomes disqualified to
be a potential partner and you will think
of him as a friend.
The items in your check list are of course
unique and specific to you, depending on
your background, values, past experiences
and beliefs.
The following is an example of the first
three lines of a check list of a guy called
Sam. Sam is a guy and his list starts with
the following three conditions:
Item one: She must have the same
educational background as mine.
Item two: Her hair must be yellow (Sam
always failed to establish successful
relationships with blondes in his past and
so his subconscious mind includes this
item in his list in order to help him
compensate for his past failures.
Item Three: She must be assertive . Sam
isn't an assertive person and since we get
attracted to those who have what we need,
therefore Sam's mind includes this item in
his criteria.
If Sam is currently not in a relationship
and then he meets an amazing girl who has
black hair, then most likely he won't fall in
love with her (without understanding that
the real reason he doesn't love her is that
she doesn't match his subconscious
criteria).
People are usually unaware of their
subconscious criteria and that's why they
usually describe love as a mysterious thing
that follows no rules but the truth is that
when they become aware of their
subconscious criteria, they will be able to
know why they fall in love with certain
people and not others.
Once you become aware of your own list,
you will know how to stop loving someone
and how to make someone fall in love
with you.
Why do some people never recover
from breakups?
That's why people who think that the "the
one" or the "soul mate" concept is true
never recover from breakups. Those people
think that there is only one match for
their criteria in this world and because
they aren't aware of the fact that there are
hundreds of people out there who could
meet their criteria, they never recover from
breakups.
You can fall in love with
any person as long as he matches your
subconscious criteria and that's why you
should never feel bad after a breakup,
simply because sooner or later, you will
find another person who matches your
criteria and he may even be better than
the first one.
Does love at first sight really exist?
Yes it does. If someone meets your
unconscious criteria, the same moment you
see him, then most probably you should fall
in love with him at first sight.
You might be asking yourself, how can I
know that he meets my criteria when I
never talked to him before?
The answer is simple, the criteria might
include items like the way he walks, talks or
looks at you.
This could also happen if the person's
actions or looks remind you of someone
you loved before (people usually fall in
love with those who are similar to the
ones they loved before).
If your criteria depends heavily on looks,
then your chance of falling in love at first
sight will be much higher than that
of a person who gives higher priority to
personality or other qualities.